Selena Gomez Details Her 90 Days in Treatment: Equine Therapy, No Phone and 'I Never Did My Hair'
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Gomez may be the most-followed person on Instagram (124 million and
counting…), but the singer knows when it’s time to unplug and take a step back
from the spotlight. Last October, Gomez canceled her tour and sought
out treatment to focus on her emotional health and exhaustion, something
she’s opening up about in the September issue of InStyle.
“I went away for 90 days, and it was the best thing that I ever could’ve
done,” she tells InStyle‘s Laura Brown in her
candid cover interview. “I had no phone, nothing, and I was scared. But it
was amazing, and I learned a lot.”
Gomez says being completely cut off from the outside world and her life as a
celebrity was crucial to her personal healing process.
“I was in the countryside and never did my hair; I took part in equine therapy,
which is so beautiful,” she reveals. “And it was hard, obviously. But I knew
what my heart was saying, and I thought, ‘OK, I think this has helped me become
stronger for other people.'”
Even though she’s back in a big way (new
music, a new
relationship and a big
fashion partnership with Coach!), the singer says “there are still days”
that are difficult.
“I go to therapy. I believe in that and talking about where you are,” she
says. “But I’m in a really, really healthy place.”
Gomez is also “really” happy in her new relationship with The
Weeknd, né Abel Tesfaye, but she knows the importance of standing solo.
“I don’t depend on one area of my life to make me happy. It’s really
important for me to love and nourish my friends and family and to make sure that
I never get influenced by a guy,” she says when asked about her new boyfriend.
“I’ve wanted to be in a strong headspace for years, and I really wasn’t. Before,
I was so young and easily influenced, and I’d feel insecure. You want someone to
add to your life, not to complete you, if that makes sense. I’m lucky because
he’s more of a best friend than anything else.”
That best friend made sure to fly
from a show in Paris to Los Angeles to celebrate Gomez’s 25th birthday with
her.
“I kind of wish numbers didn’t exist sometimes, because I feel like I’m 15
some days, and then other days I wake up and I’m 40,” Gomez, who turned 25 on
July 22, says. “It’s so weird, how one year can change everything.”
One thing that Gomez will always struggle to get used to is her social media
fame. As the most followed person on Instagram, she continues to struggle with
the intense scrutiny that comes along with it.
“It’s good to be connected, to see things, and to get a sense of what your
friends are up to. But it also allows people to think they need to look or be a
certain way … now it feels more zoomed-in – you have ugly people trying to get
negative things from you, and the energy makes you feel bad about yourself,” she
says. “You can’t help it. It’s very hard to find out who you are during all that
mess and pressure.”
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